Hw 21

1. Honeymoon from Death, no chance of living.
2. Fathers relationship with his older son.
3.How her husband deep inside truly believed he was going to live through his illness and not die.
4.No use of the words death or dying around her husband.
5.Hard time getting insurance.
6.When Erik finally died it took her some time to actually gather her thoughts and realize that her husband was dead.

   In life we all know that death is something that is guaranteed to happen and no matter how much we put it to the side and fight it is impossible to avoid. From the time we are born till the day we die, us as human beings live life knowing we wont be here forever so for the time being we enjoy what life has to offer and not to worry about death because that is something that we can't control. When the guest speaker explained that her husband did not believe he was going to die, I wondered why would someone so ill think like that and by him thinking in that mind state what does he get or lose from it. Even though I have never been in the situation were i was so sick to the point that i was bedridden I can clearly understand were he is coming from. A lot of times when I am sick or injured I realize that for most of the time I'm in denial and then I finally after a certain period of time i realize that i am actually sick or injured. When you are sick and  you tell yourself your not it is a way to cope with the pain and the idea that you are very ill and you may be ill for a very long time. In Erik's case he was so sick to the point were telling himself that he wasn't going to die and he would somehow survive it was the only way that he could deal with the fact that he was going to die. When you keep telling yourself you'll be fine over and over again and you barely see a change you just hope for the best and pray that everything will be better.
   What about death brings families and others closer? is it the fact that the person who is sick and dying won't be around anymore and the chances of you waking up and seeing he/she again is slim or doesn't have to do with the relationship and bond you and that person share. When the guess speaker explained that Erik would not let his older son come and visit him I couldn't understand why. Even though deep inside Erik did not want to die he still knew that there was a high probability of it happening. Through out the story that the guess speaker was sharing she clearly explained that Erik's younger was able to visit and she his father during his last days. When she explained that Erik's older son shared a relationship with his father that couldn't be broken no matter what I then began to understand why Erik did not want him to visit him. Erik did not want his son to see him in that condition bedridden and hospitalized.
   I understand that death is inevitable and sooner or later it will happen to me, my mother, father, and brother but for the time being I live life trying to fill out my goals and aspirations. I feel that death is a way to push people and make people want to achieve certain things in life because we wont be here forever. I feel that we all understand that dying and watching others pass away is a bridge that we will all cross. I've realized that some people can handle death and some can't, and the death of someone important in your life can make you stronger or weaker but no matter the outcome we have to learn to deal with it and not let it ruin our lives.